Triggers Are Old Wounds Asking for Attention

When your emotional reaction is wildly out of proportion to what just happened, the current situation probably isn't the real cause. A trigger is a present event activating a past wound — something unresolved that never fully healed. This doesn't excuse the reaction or make it someone else's problem to manage. But it does redirect the question: not "why is this person so infuriating?" but "why is this hitting me so hard?" That second question is the more useful one.