Apologize for Your Actions, Never for Your Feelings

You can feel anything — rage, jealousy, resentment, envy. Feelings aren't moral failures. They're data. What you choose to do with them is where your responsibility begins. "I'm sorry I yelled" is accountability. "I'm sorry I was angry" is self-erasure — it teaches you that certain emotions are wrong to feel, which makes them harder to handle, not easier. Apologize for the impact of your behavior, not for the emotion that was underneath it.