It's Harder to Think Clearly About Things You Care About

The more emotionally invested you are in a topic, the more your thinking bends toward what you want to be true rather than what is true. This is why we can be perfectly rational about someone else's relationship while being blind to the problems in our own. The areas where you most need clear thinking — your career, your relationships, your deepest beliefs — are exactly where it's hardest. Recognizing this asymmetry is the first step toward compensating for it.