A Good Relationship Does Not Require Self-Abandonment

If being loved requires you to shrink, silence your opinions, or abandon the things that make you you -- the price is too high. A partner who needs a smaller version of you doesn't love you; they love their control over you. A good relationship makes space for both people to be fully themselves -- messy edges, strong opinions, individual passions and all. You should never have to choose between being loved and being whole.